This is a sponsored post written by me on behalf of Commando Dad.
by Alanna Peters
How many expecting moms do you know? I’m sure you can quickly think of one (or three…or ten!), assuming your Facebook feed looks anything at all like mine!
Now, what if I ask you how many expecting dads you know? You may have to stop and think for a minute. I feel like dads often get a little overlooked in the excitement of a new pregnancy. So, now that Mother’s Day has come and gone, it’s time to start thinking about our dads (and dads-to-be)!
When I was pregnant the first time I had shelves full of childbirth books but I didn’t really have any books about actually taking care of a baby. I am the oldest of 6 children and spent most of my teenage years babysitting so I was pretty confident about baby care, but my husband had pretty much zero experience with babies. He and I attended one very basic baby class (one of those awkward things where you get to put a diaper on a doll) but he still didn’t feel fully prepared for taking care of a baby. So many things just came naturally to me as a mom but for a dad who doesn’t spend 24/7 with a baby it can be quite overwhelming!
Neil Sinclair felt the same way and decided to write a baby manual just for dads. The manual he put together is called Commando Dad, and it is funny, informative and geared specifically towards the guys. Sinclair was a real military Commando in the British Army and his manual takes the approach of a military handbook. (Apparently Prince William even read it to prepare when he and the Duchess were expecting! I’d say that’s the royal stamp of approval. Haha. :D) Sinclair was frustrated to find that all the information he had received before the birth of his son was geared only towards birth and not beyond. He felt totally lost when they actually brought their new baby home! He set out to put together a manual to help all the other new dads out there.
As a second-time mom I felt like I didn’t really need a manual for baby care but I was surprised to find that the Commando Dad actually had some great tips and reminders that I hadn’t really remembered, or ever even considered to begin with. If you asked me how to bathe a baby, here is what I’d tell you:
“Fill the baby bath with warm water. Put your baby in it, hold onto her, and gently wash her with a soft washcloth and gentle, non-toxic baby wash.”
Helpful enough? For me, yes. But for a new dad? Probably not. Commando Dad breaks it down by the numbers:
1. What to bathe your baby in.
2. What temperature the water should be.
3. Which order you turn on the faucet taps (cold first!).
4. How deep the water should be.
5. How to put your baby in.
6. What to wash her with.
7. What order to wash baby’s parts in.
8. And so on.
(And just in case, he even reminds you to check the diaper for poo before popping your baby in the tub!)
All that may sound like a lot of information but it’s presented in such a clear and concise form that it’s easy-peasy to read at a quick glance.
Along with the bathing tips, I especially liked the tips on what to pack for going out for different occasions and the awesome tips for sleeping – both naps and overnight. (This is something we are still struggling with!)
I thought the book was an easy and fun read. The handbook uses both real and made-up military terminology – home is now “Base Camp”, an explosive poo is a “Howitzer”, and the baby is referred to as a “BT”, or Baby Trooper. (There’s a glossary at the end of the book so don’t worry if you forget what half these terms are referring to!)
Neil Sinclair is a stay-at-home dad so the book is definitely geared towards the dad’s way of caring for the baby. It’s easy to navigate for quick reference when you’re in the middle of a crisis situation. The Table of Contents very clearly labels the location of each topic, and the index at the end is helpful as well. There’s a quick chapter about preparing for the arrival of your BT, a chapter about surviving the first 24 hours (which is oh-so-important!), and from there it digs into daily life with your troopers. The manual includes training information for three full years of child-raising, including nutrition, potty-training, tantrums, and more, so it will be helpful to dads (and moms!) for quite some time. There is also a companion website for Commando Dad, which includes more resources, a forum, a blog, and even a store. If you know a guy who is (or is about to become) a new dad, this book would be an awesome Father’s Day gift! It’s easy to navigate, quick to reference, and it’s good for 3 years or more – what’s not to love?!
- What are YOUR top tips for surviving the first 24 hours? What do you wish you had more instructions for during the first few days home with your new baby?
If you’d like to buy this book for a special dad on your list this Father’s Day, you can purchase it from Amazon.com for $12.45. Or, you can also try your luck and enter to WIN a copy!
This is a sponsored post written by me on behalf of Commando Dad. #CommandoDadBook
Pinkie Balock says
Hey guys, I’m a new mother and I’m trying to get my two month little one to sleep through the night. At the moment I am lucky to have three hours sleep a night. Best wishes
Chrsitina S says
Just go with it. Things will always go wrong, but just go with it and have patience.
jeremy mclaughlin says
Have a lot of patience.
Nesca Crespo says
Have lots and lots of patience….and baby wipes!
deanna says
My survival tip: don’t stress out! You won’t be perfect–neither will baby and that’s ok!
amanda whiltey says
i would say for mom and dad to sleep when baby sleeps.
Jessibeth Vicenty says
Too have Patience and help with the kid.
susan smoaks says
my best survival tip for new dads is to help out mom as much as possible. she will need all the help she can get.
Veronica V says
Have patience.
Jessica Sage says
Be helpful! (Help change diapers!)
Randi Boyd says
Always tell your partner what a good job she is doing.
Melanie Comello says
I think the best tip i can give is, Calm down, i don’t think your little one is as breakable as you think he/ she is! I think that was my husbands initial biggest worry lol…..Our lil girl was really small and he was so worried about handling her at all!
Dawn S. says
Be patient and expect it to take a little time before a routine is established.
Em Ma says
Relax! Babies can sense when you’re tense.
Tracy Jones says
When the crying starts, just breathe.
Em Ma says
Relax and remain calm. My husband was so tense with our first one and the baby could sense that.
Nancy says
My best survival tip for dads is to gladly accept any help when offered!
Jennifer Shelton says
Sleep when the baby sleeps!
Ashley Wheeler says
Help out at night as much as you can. Your wife will appreciate it
Stephanie Galbraith says
Relax.
Jessica W says
Sometimes babies cry for no reason….it’s okay, you aren’t doing anything wrong! Also….men’s voices tend to soothe better than women’s. So feel lucky.
Gabby Dunai says
Help out your wife/gf/child’s parent. Giving birth is hard work!!!
TawndaM says
Don’t be afraid of making a mistake… Mom’s in the same boat. Just use your head & you’ll do fine
Sunnie says
I think if you get stressed out or need help, ask! Take a break.
Renee G says
Sleep whenever you can.
Sue Hull says
If she/he is crying check the diaper/ feed them and always burp them. A gassy baby is not fun. This book would be good for my son-in-law to be. My granddaughter is 2 1/2 wks old. Him and my daughter could always use a few tips. Thank you for the cool giveaway 🙂
Dianna Thomas says
Take a deep breath, slowly blow it out– and stay calm– baby will too.Always act as if this ok we can do it,and that you know what your doing.
Robyn L says
Get all the sleep you can before the baby comes because sleeping in becomes a thing of the past, but it is all worth it!
Sacha Schroeder says
If you want to survive, help Mom and make sure she gets some rest. LOL!
Daniel M says
patience is key
Holly Mitkowski says
The worst thing in the world is not changing a diaper! 🙂