I am a member of the Collective Bias® Social Fabric® Community. This shop for Coffeemate Peppermint Mocha creamer has been compensated as part of a social shopper insights study for Collective Bias and their client.
My friend Jessie and I were long overdue for some hang out time, so I invited her over for a cup of coffee, a tasty treat, and more importantly, some food for the soul, which is what spending quality time with someone is for me.
I have hesitated many times to invite Jessie (and other friends) over. Not because I didn’t want to see them (quite the opposite!) but because my to-do list seemed out of control, and my house was most definitely out of control. Where was the time to get myself organized and presentable so that I wouldn’t be embarrassed to have friends over?
Just Do It
But you know what? If I believe that everyone else but me has it all together, then I’m fooling myself. And in my years of balancing parenting, household management and a career, I can most definitely tell you that waiting until you/your house/your list of things to get done is in a better place before spending time with friends is a great way to never spend time with your friends.
So I swallowed my pride a bit and invited my good friend over to just hang out. And I really enjoyed doing a little shopping at Walmart for our coffee date by picking up Coffeemate Peppermint Mocha creamer (SOOOO good, y’all!) and a mug for Jessie. Purple is her favorite color (mine, too!) and I thought it would be a fun treat to have a nice new mug.
As I was preparing for our time together, I couldn’t help but notice that I was starting to get stressed out. I was thinking about all the work on the house that needed to be done (from bits of paper on the floor to walls needed to be painted, and everything in between), and my blog work list that seems to get longer and longer, despite my best efforts to accomplish things. I was starting to squelch my own joy about having a friend over. And that’s when I took a break and poured myself a cup of coffee. Jessie wouldn’t mind if I got the party started a bit early!
I also made some brownies for us to much on, and I used peppermint mocha flavored coffee in the place of milk , as well as added some melted chocolate and crushed peppermint candies on top. It was really nice to have something so pretty on hand, just for us, and it wasn’t difficult to make; just a little substitution to give the brownies more of a festive flavor!
Don’t forget the whipped topping in your coffee, too! Every once in a while, the splurge is totally worth it.
I also put on what refer to as my, “free to be me” shirt. It has sparklers on it, and says, “Pass it on.” It is from Momastery, and it is a great reminder to me to let my light shine. Seems like someone else was ready to have a coffee date, too!
Owen, our elf on the shelf, seemed quite interested in what was inside my cup, so I gave him a little sip.
My friend and I had a really nice visit. Her two little boys were SO sweet, and the oldest was very patient with Layah, who is still working on the whole “sharing” concept. I got to get some coos and giggles from her baby boy (that’s all the baby fix I need!) and even got to play with trains a little bit with her almost 3 year old.
We talked a lot about our blogs and changes on the horizon, about our kids, and about the craziness of navigating the school system here in Chattanooga. And we enjoyed the relative quiet and each other’s company while sipping our coffee (or so I thought!). Halfway through our visit, Jessie said, “I’m so sorry, but could I pour my coffee out of this mug? It is doing too good of a job keeping the coffee hot and I REALLY want to drink it!”
I laughed so hard! And then I was very thankful that Jessie could just be real with me. The cup I bought for her was awesome…a little too awesome, in fact. Poor thing had only been able to smell that delicious coffee for about 45 minutes before she threw in the towel and asked for something not so perfect.
There’s a life lesson in that story, friends. Perhaps the pursuit of perfection can keep things at arms length: friendships, quiet moments, calm, and happiness with what is rather than what could be.
Coffeemate was recently featured in the Live SoFab Holiday Digital Magazine, which is such a fun read. It is full of great ideas for the holidays, and I would agree that having some Coffeemate creamer on hand for a visit with friends or just for some great coffee for yourself is a must! Be sure to check it out, along with a whole lot of other fantastic ideas for the season.